13 Years Later
The most surprising things I’ve learned from being in an open relationship
After well over a decade in an open relationship with the man who is now my husband, I’m still shocked at how well this arrangement has ended up working.
Our choice to do it this way has contributed to a profound growth and surprising deepening.
It’s nothing like what I imagined it would be when we first started this experiment.
It’s so much better.
It’s not really about promiscuity
Although we’ve had a few moments of adventursome fun over the years, these moments have honestly been few and far between. Maybe it’s because we are both rather particular, with high expectations of quality required to create emotional connection.
If you don’t know us well, you’d never guess we were anything but a standard old married couple.
But it’s amazing what can happen with an upfront agreement to makes space for the very natural human urge to be attracted to the occasional other.
Stranger sparks fly sometime, like evolution designed them to do. But rather than those sparks being guilty forbidden secrets, with honesty and transparent vulnerability they can become vectors for even deeper…
