The answer is right under your nose — Oh no! You did it again! Fell into the trap of people-pleasing, to your own detriment, and agreed to do something you didn’t really want to do. All because (subconsciously) you just wanted the person who asked you to be happy. Dammit! How does this happen to you all the…

With even-keeled parents who had balanced nervous systems, good communication, and skills in holding strong, clear, and healthy boundaries? — Yeah, me neither. None of us did. And I’m not saying this to blame prior generations. They were just doing the best they could. Even though it wasn’t always so great. Without clinging to victimhood, knowing what’s gone wrong with the system at large is going to be necessary if…

No seriously, I’m asking… — This isn’t a meta advisory post to show off my faux-knowledge of how the internet works. It’s an honest plea for help! With a few wry laughs thrown in for your reading pleasure. I’m Not Stuck on the Mechanics of List Building Goddess knows I’ve only read, IDK, a billion articles on the topic over the past decade. …

Honoring the seed and all the work it takes to cultivate. — A vase of cut flowers Stripped of their roots Grown for their beauty and not for their fruits Wrapped up in plastic and zapped with some lights to make sure they look pretty fresh colorful and bright This is what our culture has done to each other Made us decorative…

From the sexual nature of the feminine, all new things begin — I believe we are deeply ready for a new collective story of being. A story that tells the tale of our interdependence with our environment, and perhaps consciousness itself. It follows that our human creativity is more needed now than ever before. Speaking from the perspective of living in a…

Reciprocity. It answers all the questions. — We’re about to dive into a few hours of weekend family Minecraft. Years of personal growth work and relationship education have taken us to the place where we’ve handled our adulting responsibilities well enough to make time in our lives for play. I’m feeling pretty proud of us right now. How do we make space for this in our lives? …

This old story of fear, control, and disconnection is SO over! — Hating the patriarchy doesn’t mean the same thing as hating or blaming men. Breaking up with this pathological domination hierarchy we call the patriarchy is a much bigger story. And we can all do it if we want to. Don’t you? But doesn’t Patriarchy mean “rule of the father?” Yes, and No. Let’s talk about the nuance here. …

And why their systems perspectives are so deeply needed — Sometimes the biggest thoughts are also the simplest ones. When a creative polymath with an insatiable lust for problem solving gets to a point where they have consumed enough information, puzzled through enough questions, and honed their own creative skills — a eureka moment might hit them. It’s a moment…