Becoming More Centered is Easier Than You Think

The answer is right under your nose

Kaia Maeve


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Oh no! You did it again!

Fell into the trap of people-pleasing, to your own detriment, and agreed to do something you didn’t really want to do. All because (subconsciously) you just wanted the person who asked you to be happy.


How does this happen to you all the time? Why do you expect yourself to center others while at the same time subconsciously marginalizing nearly all of your own needs, desires, and pleasures?

You aren’t alone.

This is a systemic phenomenon.

My hope is to shine a light on some of what’s happening here, and muse a bit on how we can begin to reverse the pathological trend of living life at the margins of our own reality.

So why are we taught to marginalize ourselves?

Somewhere in our modern personal OS, we picked up a few lines of rogue code. It seems designed to shunt us into behavior that simply doesn’t align with our truest inner desires.

It almost feels like we’ve been programmed with a social code with built-in privilege hiding in plain sight. Or maybe built-in self-destruction, depending on which way you look at…



Kaia Maeve

I show HR leaders in the IT space how to increase retention by re-creating their company culture to foster burnout resistance. Queen Bee of the #TechHippies