I can see what you’re saying here. Sort of.

The difference between saying all men are at fault for the crimes of a few - and saying all women are proponents of their own objectification and oppression because they vote men into office and power who don’t respect them - is slight, but significant.


Neither absolute is entirely accurate. Some men work to raise women up. Some women work to free themselves and others from the systems of oppression at large. Agreed.

But women as a whole do not cause the problems of rape, murder, and misogyny. Some merely fail to react logically in a system that influences them against their own best self interest.

Whereas 95% of intimate violence is perpetrated by men on women. 98% of rape and sexual assault is done by men. And out of every 1000 sexual assaults that happen - 975 men will walk away scot free.

It’s not that I want to disparage a man like yourself who claims to be an ally to women. It’s just that objecting to the calling out of men is a diversion from the fact that men are the ones perpetrating most of the violence.

While some women do play their own parts in perpetuating these systems, they are not by and large the perpetrators of these crimes.

You see the difference? Some women might be ill informed enough to work against their own interests. But some men are monsters. And many many other men are passive observers of these monsters. A few men know how to actively work for women. But they’re in the minority.

Ah, the eternal suffering of men—truly, a cosmic injustice. Here you are, you fragile paragons of virtue, staggering under the crushing weight of a world that cruelly mistakes y’all for beasts.

Predators, we call you—lumped in with the rapists, the murderers, the misogynists. *Those* other men. As if every man's soul is stitched from the same predatory thread.

How tragic that you must walk among us, constantly mistaken for the wolves you are not. All you want is more accurate language—and to exist without the inconvenience of being associated with for the sins of your half of humanity.

If this alienates you, and doesn’t feel fair - consider this. Have you been raped? Have you been the victim of horrific violence? Have you been drugged? Have you been beaten by your intimate partner?

If the answer to these questions is yes, then you have the right to object to my language. If the answer is no? Then sit down and stop complaining that you’re being included with the monster men.

When the truly horrifying men no longer have support from a large majority of silent and passive men, then you can speak your piece.