I have a wonderful husband. He's attentive to my sexual desires, he washes the dishes and cleans the floor, he cares for our children so that I can have time to nurture myself. In short, he's amazing. And sometimes, he still acts entitled to what he wants, and I get stuck with what's left. But I love him, and he's aware of the problem.

My son is another remarkable human. He's conscious of the need to obtain consent before he touches anyone. He's conscious of the language he uses. He tries his best to treat his sister well. He's also 7.

The problem is purely cultural, imho. #manbox culture to be specific.

There isn't anything wrong with men themselves, but rather in the lessons those men have learned from a fucked up culture. Rather than dwelling on the tragedy of heterosexuality (although it is tempting at times) I think we just need to do heterosexual relationships better. Women and men alike.

Good relationships are about respect and mutual self-actualization. Gender does not have to dictate the possibility of these things, though it often unfortunately does. But we can change these things.

Or maybe I'm just not burnt out enough yet. Ha!

Thought-provoking post as usual Vicki. Thanks!