I think the social limitations of gender, and the realities of biological phenotypes clash in such interesting ways.

Having 2 kids, one male and one female - I do feel the pressures of gendered parenting. But I also recognize the reality of my kids' biology. I think it would be hard to raise them as non-binary because it's such a radical departure from past norms in western culture at least.

I wrote this one a few years ago when my son asked me if he was non-binary - https://medium.com/fearless-she-wrote/my-son-asked-me-if-he-was-non-binary-e13a0835f89b

Yes, we have all have biological gender - be it male, female, or intersex. Yes, we also have our orientations - hetero, homo, pan, etc... And yes, we all have identities - which the options have grown like crazy in the last few years. I'm of the opinion that pre-pubescent kids should not be forced into any one box and made to stay there.

Right now my daughter is very in her feminine. My son uses he/they pronouns because he's comfortable identifying as male, but wants to show solidarity for the non-gendered folks he knows too. He's 10. She's 7.

Maybe raising kids without a rigid gender norm would be better. Maybe it wouldn't. Who the heck knows?

I think kids should be raised how their parents want to raise them, as long as there is love, support, and respect.