I think the struggle to find a men's group that supports men in de-conditioning themselves from the broken norms of dominator thinking would be a very hot topic. Especially written by someone living it.

As a woman, I've had to do my own work. There's lots of patriarchy inside of me too. I denied my own feminine side as a girl child because I could live in my masculine (play sports, work in tech, live in my brain) and the world liked me better that way.

https://kaiamaeve.medium.com/i-denied-my-femininity-953dc2f260ca

I started to realize that this split we hold inside of ourselves is a truly systemic issue - that we're going to have to see and name before we can address it.

https://medium.com/moments-of-passion/where-does-this-rage-come-from-37aa9d37bbd4

I began to unpack the psychology of domination - and why we all do it - even when we say we know better.

https://kaiamaeve.medium.com/domination-is-a-hell-of-a-drug-1b808b10e97a

I started asking for a new kind of relationship between women & men, as well as the masculine and the feminine. https://medium.com/moments-of-passion/just-hold-me-917f7e119da6

I started digging into why women want more. https://kaiamaeve.medium.com/why-women-want-more-a015f5c0ddea

I started channeling poems from the deep feminine current of reality, and challenging myself to post them online where people could see them.

https://kaiamaeve.medium.com/she-has-come-cb54def5886e

But mostly - I've realized that the work is something we all have to do WITHIN ourselves. It's nothing we can do FOR others.

https://medium.com/fourth-wave/this-is-the-time-of-the-unweaving-d438405f2c1a?sk=8078f98c339487b2d10ea6557a3513f2

I drop all these links in hopes that you can see how sincerely I've been exploring this topic for years now. How messy and tangled it is. These are just a fraction of the essays I've put down, while trying to figure it out myself.

If you ever want a pointer to a men's group that you might like better - feel free to drop me a line.

I'd be MORE than happy to share what I know of the men doing this good work in the world.

They struggle to get traction - because quite frankly - their work is the final key to the dissolution of old systems. Ergo the systems are trying their hardest to keep the good work invisible.