LaMar Going, would you have the same reaction to the words I wrote if I were a man?

Do you not see what women have been dealing with for centuries? It’s time to flip the script, and I don’t say that as a man-hater at all.

My intention here is to shine a light on why we are ALL so disconnected from the things that make relating work well.

So with that interest in mind-

1. Women are told we must first and foremost strive to be beautiful by the standards we (mostly men) have determined. See Instagram for reference.

2. Second, we’ve been told to work hard, control our emotions, and don’t bother the menfolk with your silliness. We (mostly men) will come get from you what we want, when we want it. Keep your crazies away from us rational humans.

3. Stop trying to be out in the world. Your body isn’t truly your own. No — it’s for pleasing men and making babies. Boobies are for sexual pleasure, not for feeding children. Don’t pull those things out in here!!

4. And finally relax and enjoy your place, for your mind isn’t as good as a mans. Your place is in the home.

Do I sound pissed? You betcha.

So when I share what I WANT from my partner, don’t tell me I don’t have the right to speak my piece.

I mean no personal offense here. But if you want a better chance at relating to women, stop judging and start listening.