Thanks for this detailed and thoughtful response.

And NO I don’t think the patriarchy is behind everything. I was using this situation to illustrate, in the most harmless way possible, that men could actually choose NOT to take offense when systemic shit is called out.

If offices are hard to temperature regulate, which is a real thing, then why are there so many very cold offices?

I’ve personally never been too warm in an office anywhere ever short of in the actual server room.