the best part about relationships is the opportunity to grow together! what you say about a series of not-quitting moments? so very very true.

15 years into my relationship with my partner, we're finally starting to get the hang of it. enough vulnerability and communication, mixed with good self-esteem, strong integrity, and desire to personally self-actualize as well as support that in each other.

but if i had waited til I was ready? or if he had? we never would have gotten the chance to get in the reps that actually get us there.

"This looming ‘not readiness’ consumes decades of men’s lives. They often pick up relationships with women that have no standard for them during these periods. These hollow connections damage their ability to connect with the kind of women they are ‘getting ready for’. They develop relationships during these periods that perpetuate selfishness."

More than one of my dear friends is stuck in this loop right now. It's painful to watch.