Why would anyone argue with this? Kim, this is profound wise woman stuff you're talking here. And does the man you describe ever sound sexy! Rawr!

The thing about marriage that is pretty cool, I mean once you get through all the pain of it, is the co-evolutionary potential of partnership. As we pull each other up and through the toxicity caused by suppressed emotion, we grow.

Whether it's suppressed vulnerability in men or suppressed anger in women, we evolve as we learn to express our feelings. As we grow through the concrete shells we put around ourselves, and start to bloom flowers.

Here's to cronehood and sexy old age. May we all become the wise and kind ones.