You aren’t alone. I struggle with the same balancing act.

I prefer the non-gendered terms Partnership and Domination Hierarchy to describe the mess we are all finding ourselves in for just this reason.

I also use the #MenToo hashtag for the same reasons you list in this piece.

If you’re interested in connecting to some more people who work along these lines, let me know. I’d be happy to connect you with the folks and resources I’ve found.

In the end, we can’t smash the patriarchy. It’s antithetical in the extreme. We must love it all into the new paradigm - which is very very difficult to do.

But necessary.

#onelove