Your concept of the Uberization of sexuality (usually feminine) is a strong one. Here's an in depth piece I wrote that speaks to an adjacent issue - why many women are getting so into sex and their sexuality to find empowerment.

https://medium.com/the-innovation/why-does-it-have-to-be-about-sex-53ee1424cfdf

If you REALLY want to know the reason ex techies turn into XX techies, perhaps it's because of the inherent conflict of interest we experience between being true to ourselves as women, and becoming successful in a field where we mostly have to pretend to be men.

Pent up energy in other words.