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Your Life Is Too Short To Spend Years Trying To Make Other People Happy
How to quit the habit and move into a more fulfilling life.
Staying in people-pleasing mode is a guaranteed path to eventual self-destruction.
Women are subconsciously trained to be invisible. This eventually leads to a kind of long, slow death by a thousand papercuts, that no one is supposed to see.
I don’t always want what that other person wants. In fact, sometimes I want something entirely different. But in the past, I’ve stupidly chosen not to speak up about it.
This is changing greatly as I age. Thankfully!
But why do I, especially as a woman, tend to try to people-please all the time in the first place anyway? Especially in my most intimate relationships?
You wouldn’t consciously give away all your power in exchange for nothing. So why do we seem to fall into patterns of relating to the people we love like we are here to serve their needs?
A relationship can be loving, sweet, and full of mutual attraction. But somehow, it’s still all too easy to lose sight of who we are, what we need, and what our true desires are in this…
